I have seen it time and time again. Money has a way of revealing who you really are. Money illuminates your true self. If you are a giver and you come into money, you will find someone or a cause to give to. If you are a helper and you acquire money, you will find people to help. If you are a fool without money, you will be a fool with money acting foolishly. If you are selfish without money, you will be selfish with money. Money reveals who you really are. Money unveils your true character.
What do you do when it seems like the bottom is falling out of your life? What do you do when it appears that everything that can go wrong does go wrong and all at the same time? What do you do when it appears that life has been designed to break you? How do you keep your head up when your dream becomes your nightmare? You decide that you must fight for your life. You embrace the reality that you are resilient. You tell yourself that you are a survivor. You will fight and win.
You tell yourself that you are a warrior. A warrior is one who fights back and win. Warriors win battle after battle. You find peace and comfort in knowing that after the rain comes a rainbow. You remind yourself that spring always comes after winter.
What you feed, you produce. It takes just as much energy to focus on the negative as it does to focus on the positive. So, why not envision yourself achieving the goal instead of failing or missing the mark? For some, focusing on the positive is harder because it’s much like writing with your left hand if you are right handed. It can be the equivalent of using a muscle that you have never used before.
Years ago, I met a co-worker and we became relatively close. Approximately, five years into our friendship, there came when she showed me she was not the person I thought she was. We collaborated on a few projects and made plans for some pretty important things to happen, but at the ninth hour she backed out. She began to play games and dodge phone calls. Her actions placed me in a pretty tight situation. Nonetheless, I viewed the situation as her not wanting to tell me that she had a change of heart.
After a couple of weeks went by, we discussed the incident and she gave me her viewpoint. I felt she wasn’t being entirely forthcoming because she had that information prior to her suggesting we engage in the project. I valued the friendship and we picked back up and eventually got back to a good place.
Have you ever been around people who are so preoccupied with the inefficiencies of others? Those people have no problem telling you everything that is wrong with you. Yet, they will have a conniption fit if you even thought to question one of their decisions. They can go on and on pointing the finger at someone else, when they are clearly not impacted by the decision, so why should another person’s choices matter?
I have learned that these are not the type of people I want close to me because I am focused on making Sharalyn better. (more…)
What do you do when someone has disappointed you?