Five Simple Steps to Overcome Negative Thinking

I never looked at the consequences of missing a big shot…when you think about the consequences you always think of a negative result. ~Michael Jordan

What you feed, you produce. It takes just as much energy to focus on the negative as it does to focus on the positive. So, why not envision yourself achieving the goal instead of failing or missing the mark? For some, focusing on the positive is harder because it’s much like writing with your left hand if you are right handed. It can be the equivalent of using a muscle that you have never used before.



Are You Allowing a Setback to Deter You From Achieving Your Goals?

Giving up on your goal because of one setback is like slashing your other three tires because you got a flat.

OK, so no one in their right mind would slash three tires because one tire has a flat. So, why would you allow one setback to deter you from accomplishing your goal? What if the setback was designed to determine how bad you really wanted the goal?

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Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.

Sheryl Sandberg

Do You Have Dreams or Do You Have Goals and Do You Know the Difference?

A dream becomes a goal when action is taken toward its achievement. ~ Bo Bennett

Many of us inaccurately label our dreams as goals instead of calling the dream what it really is, which is a dream or a wish if we are not working on making it a reality.  Let me be clear.  There is nothing wrong with having a dream.  Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream, but he made his dream a catalyst for a goal by working to actualize his dream.  Dr. King did not just wish for something to happen.  He wasn’t content with the idea that his dream would one day become true.  He took aggressive action to make the dream that we talk about today a reality. Because he understood that for us to enjoy the liberties in his dream, effort would be required for achievement.

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The same holds true for each one of us that has a dream.  No matter how big the dream or how small the dream, it is not a goal unless we take action to accomplish what is in our hearts. 


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This Way Is Up

Your thoughts and the way you see yourself can either take you or they can take you down.  If that’s the case, then let’s go up!  So often, I have found that if I believe a certain way about a particular situation, the outcome actually mirrors my belief.  My thoughts have the power to manifest in my future.  So, it is important that I evaluate every thought to determine if I need a change in thinking.  I cringe when I even think that this could never happen (whatever the current object of my desire).  I must stop and ask myself, “Why wouldn’t it happen?” or “Why can’t it happen?”  I have an expectation that great things will happen and are happening for me all the time.  If I want it bad enough, then this will happen as well and it starts with me changing the way I think about a situation.

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Does Your Image Match Where You Are Going?

Last year, I took on a new group of clients. I flew to meet them for an offsite Face-to-Face strategy session, which took place over the course of four days. I was the only African American and there were only four other women in a room dominated by Caucasian men. While there, some men interacted with me. However, the vast majority treated me as if I was invisible. They treated me as if I hadn’t earned my way to have a seat at the table. Imagine my surprise when I saw one of the gentlemen a few months later and he commented that I had changed my hair. I had changed my hair, but it wasn’t a drastic or noticeable change at all. It was only parted differently.




Strategies for Launching Out Into the Deep

Launching out into the deep can be daunting. It requires you to live a little on the edge and for most of us – that is not the place we want to be.  Many of us want more, but we want to be in control.  We want the rewards, but we are adverse to risk.  Launching out into the deep is necessary if we want to experience a life that others only dream of.  It demands that we become comfortable with being uncomfortable.

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